The problem with church going public is they are sheep being led by a shepherd. If that shepherd has ill intentions, the flock follows blindly down the road and their views can easily be led astray. Thinking for yourself is not encouraged, it is actively discouraged.

Gaslighting. It’s gaslighting the poor girl into obedience. Never be afraid to name names of anyone who threatens, tries, or does abuse you. The “sin” is theirs and will always be theirs, and if you remain silent they are free to sin again and ask forgiveness.